How to deal with your ex boyfriend who happens to be your co worker but trying to have a making up r

Published: 15th October 2008
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This is for anyone who has ever dated someone from work, had a relationship, and then broken up and still has to work with that person. This article will show you how to deal, no matter what the current or past situation is between you two.


Know how you feel about your ex. Do you still have feelings? Admit it (to yourself, not the ex). Do you truly not care about them? Are you still angry, upset, or hurt by the break-up? Decide where you stand with your ex. Are you going to be friends with them, or not talk to them at all? If you would still consider dating them again, it's strongly suggested to maintain a friendship, even if it's not strong.

If you are positive you want to move on with your life, decide if you can deal with them being in your life as a friend or if you truly need to cut them completely out of your life to keep going? If you are not sure of what might be between you, you are best off just being nice to your ex. don't talk about your relationship with your ex at work. You don't want to invoke anger or fits of crying with either one of you. Remember, you are at work, keep it professional. Do not, by any means, discuss your relationship with everyone at work or say any bad things about your ex behind their back. They are bound to find out sooner or later, and it doesn't make you look like a very nice person.

Also consider, out of respect for yourself and your ex, that you probably don't want everyone to know your business. It was private and should stay between you. Consider and learn to accept the fact that you, or your ex, might date a fellow employee someday. It's hard as heck to watch your ex flirt with other employees or sometimes customers, but accept that they have moved on and do the same. If your ex's parents or friends or people you have met through your ex show up at work, say hello and be professional. Don't run away or ignore them, it just makes you look immature.

As hard as it might be, be polite and kind towards your ex. be the better person. Even if they are mean, rude, or ignorant towards you, remember that you are mature and professional and act accordingly. If ex ignores you completely at work, follow suit. If not talking or acknowledging each other's presence at work helps you both to work better, and then do it. However, don't be afraid to talk to them if you need to discuss something work-related with them.

Don't play games. Don't pass along messages for other employees to tell your ex or threaten to get them fired or flirt with other people to make them's stupid and not worth your time. If you do want to do something to make them want you back, do it when you're not at work. If you do it at work, it's very obvious and doesn't look believable to anyone, including your boss. Let time heal you. Like any break-up, it takes time to get over someone and having to see them at work definitely doesn't make it easier but you will get over them. Just give it time.


Always, always be nice. No matter how bad they hurt you or disrespect you, it shows what mature and good-hearted people you are if you still manage to treat them with utmost respect. (Even if they might not deserve it.) Do not let your emotions interfere with your work. Don't be in a bad mood if you have to work with that person because then you're letting them distract you and stop you from doing a great job at whatever you do. Remember that you are a professional, and act accordingly. Have fun at work...don't let them screw up your day or week or year.


If your ex gets extreme in terms of break up revenge (spreading ugly rumours, etc), talk to your boss and let them handle it. It's hard to work with your ex, and it may never get easier, but do it the right way. If you're truly upset and heartbroken, you might consider switching jobs, but don't make any hasty decisions before you truly think it through. You might still be dealing with this person for a long time, so think now about your actions and how they might affect your future work life with them. Don't let other employees get involved, it could get ugly. Watch out for rumours started by your ex to make you look bad and deal with them as soon as possible before they get blown out of proportion. Think twice before dating another person from work ...don't make the same mistake twice.

Indeed, life is short. Don't let another day go by without taking a chance on happiness. You will never know until you try, so remember to make a move today. It can change or affect the rest of your life, therefore, at the very least, you can try to come out something for your ex love partner during your weekend plans. With a little practice, perseverance and patience, I believe that your relationship could be enhanced with the tips that I have shared earlier. If you have faced any problems with your loved ones, do not hesitate to visit this piece of article again.

I really have a strong belief that if you can understand what I have explained and applied what you have learnt from this piece of article, your problems can be eventually solved and your making up relationship can become more stable and stronger. I wish all the best for your making up relationship with your partner. Do always remember to spread word of mouth to your fellow friends for supporting the decision of having making up than breaking up.

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